Have you ever been on a self-date?
I don't do it often, but when the mood and circumstances show themselves, I don't deny myself a good time.
Ok, "good time" isn't quite the right term. Maybe "me time" or "quiet time," would be more appropriate.
But I'm not talking staying home with a glass of wine and painting my nails either.
Sometimes I want to go out to eat, have a beer, and not talk to anyone but the person bringing me that beer. Is that a crime?
When you go on a real date, or even out with friends, there's pressure to socialize, it's rude to be on your cell phone, and you are more conscious of everything to do - even down to what you order.
On a self date that goes out the window. I had a hankering for a burger and a beer. I sat for a while at home, with just a twinge of anxiety about going out by myself, and then thought "fuck it" I'm going.
I took myself to one of my favorite places - a brewery the BF doesn't like - so I rarely get to go there.
Not only did I go. I got ready. It felt good to put on a maxi dress, do my make up and style my hair, but just for me.
If you think about it, the only time you really get ready is for others. When was the last time you got done up just to feel good?
I sat up at the bar, ordered the biggest burger on the menu, scrolled through Facebook and Instagram and watched a little of the women's World Cup. I didn't have to make small talk, or re-think what I ordered. I just sat, drank beer, ate the free kettle chips and let myself breathe.
It's exactly what I needed after last weekend, the hellish week I had, and 5 hours of volleyball.
I think I need to take myself on more self-dates.
Are you comfortable going out alone? Do you ever take yourself on self-dates?