To some this is the most wonderful time of the year. Christmastime, snow flurries, a bustle and merriment all around...
But to some, it's a dreaded, familiar, explosion of commitment known as Engagement Season.
It's the time of year the single girls, and worse, the long-time-relationship-without-a-ring girls, loath as we see post after post on social media of perfectly staged proposals and picture perfect diamond rings.
Most of you who know me are aware that I'm in the second of those categories. While I don't expect an engagement this season, it is a constant reminder (along with all the questions of "so when are you getting married?") that we are not, in fact engaged or married.
I am not in any rush, and not expecting to get married any time soon. I also don't want to over-shadow the ladies who are single, because I also remember my reaction to Engagement Season when I was one of them.
Back then it was "another one bites the dust" with a sort of longing that was easily pushed to the back of my mind.
Now it's morphed into "another one?! and they've been dating how long?!" followed by again pushing the emotion involved into the back of my consciousness, because why shouldn't they be engaged and not me? (and not swallowing it very well I might add)
If you haven't gathered that this is a rant yet, I'm coming clean now. It's a rant. He might find it. So be it. Honestly it has nothing to do with him or our relationship. I'm not in a hurry. I'll be ready when he's ready. But I honestly have to say I HATE Engagement Season.
I shouldn't and I know it. I should be happy to see people happy. I should be that bigger person that likes their post on Facebook and actually means it, rather than just for show. I should be the person that gets warm fuzzies at the thought of another happy ending. But the more Engagement Seasons I go through the harder that is.
Maybe a ring will fix it, maybe it won't.
I think the thing that has me really riled up is the recent engagements of an ex-friend. Yes we all have ex-friends, this one in particular I am happy to be exes with. But like all petty girls I still follow her on social media because watching the train-wreck is my daily dose of entertainment (seriously are you annoyed with my bitch status today yet? sorry)
What's even better about this old friend is that she has a blog. A new-er blog to chronicle her new life in a new city where she went to "to find herself and start over," after a major break up. There's a lot more rant I could go into about this new life of hers but I'll save that for another time. The real story here is she got engaged over Thanksgiving weekend, to a man she's known (as far as I can tell from the blog) less than two months. Oh and they moved in after one week together. There's a lot more details of course, love letters and texts before they even met which lead to their romance...
Anyways, I guess what I'm getting at is that seeing someone you are not a fan of, who has never worked for a relationship or for a major purpose ever, getting their happily ever after is hard. Will it last? Probably not. Did she bitch about how it wasn't an over-the-top proposal like she expected? Of course. Did he take her ring shopping two weeks into dating? Yeah, it's that kind of crazy.
All just a part of engagement season.
Her, a cousin and another friend. You can add up all their relationships and they still don't amount to the length of mine.
I know it's not about how long you're together. Trust me you're preaching to the choir.